You guys, I'm now in this place where I can only feel how many things are burning and changing. And I just wanted to share some of the resources and women who are carrying me.
In no particular order:
Danielle LaPorte – the damn queen. Pioneer to make it clear how you want to feel against the things you want. This is my way of manifesting. They say I want to feel: loved, spacious, seen – instead of saying I want an amazing friend. And then you're open to what's happening – or happening – in your life, what helps you feel that way – and maybe – probably – it's not a new friend. OG Lightworker.
Glennon Doyle – author of Love Warrior, wife of Abby Wambach. Activist, ally, bulimia and alcohol sober. Worth at least an IG. Introduced me to the idea that love could be the opposite of control, which was / is a pretty radical idea for a control freak and that, like Glennon, I am still exploring.
Sarah Jenks – This girl has been on my radar for a while and I was in awe when I saw her and her offerings change … and mature. I think becoming mom had a lot to do with it, lol. A recently published IG position consolidated its place on this list. New mothers (I also invite: old mothers, single mothers, married mothers) – it is not "take care of yourself" (impossible for a mother), it is "take care that you are looked after". The light bulb. And granted permission. AND … shedding light on how shitty our culture is towards women and mothers. Yes, I'm a little bit bitter. But because this is a post about telling the truth, I don't feel like glossing over it.
Elizabeth DiAlto – I'm going to take it with a grain of salt – Idk, maybe a bit of a personality conflict …? But I LOVE her dedication to being a fortune teller, and a long time ago I discovered these ideas that now seem so fundamental – self-love, self-acceptance, this concept of women as something radical and infinitely complex. something that had been reduced and twisted. Through her I discovered that femininity doesn't have to mean lingerie, fuck me on the lips or fuck me – femininity can be strength and anger and everything. But as always, we let white men define things. And through them I discovered:
Karen Hawkwood – this woman has blown me lately. I love how controversial she is. She'll say shit like: astrology is bullshit. Most people lie to themselves because they are weak and fearful. True forgiveness is almost impossible. The Suicide Prevention Hotline is useless. And many other things that trigger wonderfully. I love damn it. It's all the shit that's true, but we're afraid to speak. If I felt I had a mentor, I would choose you, Karen. I can only recommend Elizabeth DiAlto's podcast with her – episode 260.
Rachel Cargle – before I was a mother, I thought it was outdated to be a feminist. When I became a mother, I was plunged headfirst into the abyss of total inequality. I'm still in shock, I'm still outraged, I'm still not sure what the hell to do or why more women aren't as outraged as I am. But I'm sure of one thing: I am a total feminist and women are certainly not nearly equal to men, not in America and definitely not in certain other countries. When I became a feminist, I felt uncomfortably aware of other injustices and inequalities. But I felt they weren't my fight because they didn't affect me personally. And then it felt as ridiculous as a “vegetarian” who gave up some types of meat but not others. Not lazy, but dogmatic.
Before Rachel Cargle, I would become defensive if I read an article by an LGBT + person who tells me how to be an ally. Or I would become defensive if someone kept pointing out my white privilege. According to Rachel Cargle, I am aware of what "sound monitoring" (and a host of other terms that I used to think was ridiculously micro-nuanced). Injustice is greater than race or gender or gender. I am working to increase my capacity so that I can carry this weighty truth. I learn a lot from Rachel about how not to mess it up as an ally of a white woman. Being a feminist means being anti-racist.
I feel like I am forgetting some people – and I am deliberately dropping some people out – some people who have some good ideas, others that I disagree with. Will be updated when something important comes up.
What does that have to do with skin or acne you're asking? Exactly that – if you are in integrity with yourself, this gives you a shine that not even the most experienced beautician can highlight. Acne sucks – but do you know what sucks worse? A life that was not lived. A life of regret. A little life. A life full of lies. Life is bigger than your face, babes – remember.
Yes, no links – you have to google.